Oh snap son, I drew something.
A quick, messy sketch for Nadja of her OC, Katerina.
I might clean this up later. I want to tweak her outfit and color her.
Might being the keyword. I’m currently agonizing over NaNo.
(To full view the picture, click on it, then right click and select “open image in new tab”.)
Oh snap son, I drew something.
What do you think it means to be in love?
(taken from a conversation with a friend)
You know, the funny thing is, I recently asked my mom this very same question.
She said that it’s when you’re constantly thinking of them, wanting to be near/with them. That everything about them is great, that you don’t see, or rather, dismiss, any flaw they may have. Stuff like that.
But you know, to me, that’s just the honeymoon phase. Love to me is when you CHOOSE to love them. You pick them, and you decide to be happy with them, and when things come up, you work them out.
Then, unless they break the 3 nonnegotiable rules (no abuse, no cheating, no vices/addictions that would fuck you over), and do THEIR part of trying to make it work - then, you’re all set.
That’s why it matters so much who you choose to love, because, love is work. And if you’re going to be THAT invested in a person, it’s better to find someone who makes it easier for you to be happy with them. Because, since you, and you alone, are in charge of your happiness, you can be happy with anyone. However, if it was someone you find funny, sweet, caring, intelligent, have great talks with, shared your values, etc, then you’d be that much happier.
So the honeymoon phase is great, but if you can’t picture yourself helping each other out with each other’s career path, have some joint goals of maybe buying a house, or share similar thoughts on family, then it’s best to just have a great fling…then move on.
Being in a relationship is a great way to grow, but it’s not do or die. That’s why you test the waters by dating.
"Maybe there’s no meaning. Maybe the journey is the reward itself."
You know what I hate about this? What if your whole life has been nothing but shit after shit after shit. Then this means that’s all there ever was to it. I think this is why people often look for meaning in their lives, because for some, it’s not a matter of “oh, we just exist and that’s it”. No, it’s “oh, we just exist and our existence happens to be shitastic. Great, I’ve suffered for nothing.”
"But beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. You should find some positive in things."
Tell me, what beauty is there in a child being abuse by their parent? What beauty is there in being bullied? It made me stronger? Stronger for what? That just implies that there’s more suffering to come. So I’m more durable so I can suffer longer, because even if I survive the blows, it doesn’t mean I survive intact.
What does that leave me with? Do I try to claw out some happiness from this life? Should I be happy that worse atrocities haven’t happened to me? Do I pretend none of it happened? But what about my so-called journey?
"You learn to appreciate and treasure the good and happiness that you do receive."
Actually, it IS possible to get so beaten down that you are no longer capable of recognizing or accepting happiness and goodness. Besides extensive therapy that only slightly helps, there’s nothing to reverse this sort of thinking once a person gets that broken.
That’s why I ended up thinking as I do, which is, “Fuck it, I’m going to be happy! Fuck it all. I don’t need anything to be happy. I’m going to be happy because I want to be happy!” If I don’t rely on certain conditions being met in order for me to be happy, then I can be happy all the time, simply because I want to be. I can laugh and smile for no reason. I can whistle and skip down a street. I can go “NOPE!” whenever something tries to depress me.
If life has, or doesn’t, a meaning - if life is about the journey or not, doesn’t matter. I just completely remove myself from it all.
I just the NOPE! the fuck out. Also, this.
Don’t Perpetuate the Cycle
It’s hard for a person with low self-esteem to speak up.
It takes us a lot of nerve to make conversation/a request because we often feel that we’re annoying/a bother/clingy/disturbing or upsetting the person.
When that happens, we get upset, often crying. Our already low self-esteem plummets. We silently make vows never to talk first or make a request ever again. Worst of all, we’re even more jittery when it comes to that person, so the next time we have a conversation or want to make a request, we’re an even bigger nervous wreck.
Don’t perpetuate this cycle.
There’s a few things you can do to help.
My dashboard this morning.
Now, unpopular opinion time: I agree to a certain degree.
Art isn’t created in a void, and your interests are going to influence your art, both the content and the style because we are molded by our environment somewhat.
Where I disagree with anon is that you can read someone’s gender by this. We’re bombarded by the media, yes, but how we take that media is something else entirely. Don’t be so presumptuous. You can guess and you may even be right, but it’s still a guess not a certainty.
I love drawing cheesecake, even though I’m a straight girl. This is simply what I find appealing to draw. People have several different reasons for why they find what they draw appealing.
Saying that people who draw “girly” must therefore must be girls is going along with the media bullshit that only girls can like pink and play with barbies.
I can’t understand people who make fun of religion. Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, whatever. I mean, if you don’t believe in any God or Gods then fine I have no problem with that, go live your life whatever way you want, it’s non of my business. But why in the world would go and make fun of other things people believe in?
Is it fun for you to insult what others believe in? Do you feel better about yourself and your life when you do?
Ok I understand you disagree with their opinions and they would obviously disagree with yours but what the fuck. Live and let live. I’m so fucking sick of seeing posts on Tumblr insulting Mohammed or Jesus or Muses or Jewish people or whatever other religion is out there. I’m not harming you so please give me the same courtesy of doing the same.
I don’t think most people know that Muslims believe in both Jesus and Moses and so they come in and insult Mohammed. We’ll never insult either one of them or any other religious symbol out there.
There is even a friggin verse in the Quran that says “you have your religion and I have mine”. Case Closed. Let them be and they’ll let you be.
The reason I’ve encountered is that many of these religions have made life hell for a lot of people.
It’s great and all that you want people to live and let live, but have you considered that sometimes these religious people don’t/won’t let that happen?
I was called a devil child growing up because I questioned some adults on several aspects of the bible that didn’t make any sense to me. I was bullied because of this. To this day, I still get the random Christian telling me I’m going to hell whenever they find out I’m an atheist.
We moved to a neighborhood where Christians would come to your door and question if “you’ve heard about the Word/our Lord/Jesus/Savior?”. I openly told them that, while my mother believed so, the rest of the family did not. From then on, the neighborhood parents refused to let their children play with my little brother, who was so sad, he came crying to us because he was lonely and wanted friends. He was 9 at the time. Why would they hold that against a kid?
Let’s not forget all the trouble several religions have caused on a global aspect - anything from preventing gay marriage, abortions, stoning of women, to terrorizing other religious groups because they don’t believe in the same things they do, etc.
It’s not insulting people for their religion, for their beliefs, but their actions while they hide behind said beliefs. So then people are like, “You’re making my life miserable over some religious crap, and to add insult to injury, it’s beliefs that I find incredibly stupid/incredulous.”
However, I do agree with you, in a roundabout way, because really, the problem is usually the people of the religion, not the religion itself. It’s like the quote on Christianity by Ghandi, “I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. They are so unlike your Christ.”
Lastly, yeah, there are some asshole who like to poke fun at certain religions cause they view it as trendy. I don’t think they realize they’re acting they same way they accuse these religions? “What you believe is wrong, my way of thinking is the right way.” sort of thing.
All of these people are failing at being decent human beings, religious or otherwise.
While I haven’t been posting, I’ve been playing “let’s mess around with friends’ projects”, minus that red lines one, which is the base to another little animation I did. If only I could get it to work right. /animation noob
The top ones were for some of Nadja's art. She's going to be at AN, so you should stop by her table. <3
The guy with a bunch of eyes was based off the BF’s awesome concept art (which is amazing cause it has multiple arms holding swords. I was just too lazy to draw that out). He originally had that one eye in his face, but I turned it into a halo of eyes…cause I’ve been wanting an OC with such a concept and wanted to draw it out, ahaha;;;